All of a sudden, my telephone has not stopped ringing from people wanting help with their phobias, fears and confidence building, and I have to be careful how I answer the calls, as these are not unwanted calls I wrote about.

So, today saw me in Central London, working with a client who would not travel on the tube (metro). She also had a fear of escalators.

A phobia is an irrational fear that has got out of hand.

A phobia is a learned reaction to a stimulus or situation that creates an internal response or feeling which is inappropriate to what is happening.

Symptoms can be very varied, from panic attacks, extreme sweating, blushing, fainting, the list goes on.

If something can be learned leading to an irrational phobia or fear, then an alternative better response can be learned, and that better response run to the stimulus or situation.

This learning of a new response can be installed in a very short time, I usually only work with a client once, and for as long it takes for the new response to be installed, two minutes or ten hours.

I do not use an office, I do not have a consulting room with a couch, and I do not usually have clients visit me. I go to my clients, or I meet the client wherever the fear or phobia takes place, a departure lounge of an airport, a swimming pool, open spaces, in a dogs kennel, a hospital or dentists waiting room, wherever is suitable.

I have worked in a swimming pool in Sri Lanka with a lady who I had just met with a fear of spiders, and within minutes we were searching the bushes in the surrounding gardens for spiders.

So there I was in a crowded London street near a London Underground Tube station entrance, surrounded by shoppers, tourists, families and groups of friends unknown to me, with a client who just wanted to be like other people racing about us, getting on with their life.

Unseen by others around us I went to work, we were just two people talking, with me being a little more animated than normal. It was as if we did not exist to people.

After a few minutes, with a smile on her face and happiness in her heart, we entered the tube station, walking down the steps into the ticket hall to buy a ticket, through the barriers to ride the escalator down to the platform.

She tried to get those unwanted feelings of what had been, but they were just not there anymore as we stood waiting for the train along with many more passengers.

We chatted, and watched others not even noticing us, passing through many stations until I got to Waterloo, my stop, when I bid her farewell, never to see her again, as she can now move on in life, do the things she had wanted to do.

Phillip Holt usually travels to the clients own home or office, no matter how far and in any country, and will only see the client once for as long as required.

Phillip Holt, travels to many countries to give talks, training and coaching as a guest of individuals and organisations, and you can follow Phillip on his journal on the web http://www.nlpnow.com/.

Phillip Holt offers a whole range of courses which can be viewed on the web pages. If you run a training company or would like a speaker to your event, then no matter where you are, whichever country you are in, Phillip is waiting for you call or email.

Phillip Holt’s work has been published in many magazines and papers and he has written many articles for others. Also Phillip Holt has appeared on TV in a number of countries, and has often been on radio, some recording can be heard over the internet by going to http://www.c4nlp.com/.

Again, Phillip is waiting for your call, now.

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Do you generally feel agitated when you are alone at home? Has your discomfort reached a point where you refuse to stay alone in a room and insist that someone stays with you at all times? It is quite possible that you suffer from a psychological condition called Monophobia. This little understood condition is the term given to the morbid fear of being alone. However, you need to be absolutely sure that you suffer from this condition and nothing else so that you can get the right treatment for it. Many people refuse to believe that a person suffer from this condition if that person doesn’t really live alone at home.

If you suffer from Monophobia then you will exhibit a few characteristic behavioral traits. They are:

- Anxiety when you are alone in the house or even the room. You will have a heightened heart beat as well as shallow breathing. In extreme cases you will have a proper panic attack that can also result in fainting. You might also vomit because of the extreme fear that you are experiencing.

- An unhealthy dependency on a particular person, so much so that you refuse to let that person step out of the home.

- A need to stay in a particular place in the house because this area is perceived to be completely safe unlike the other areas.

Needless to say, you need to be checked by a doctor who will be able to tell whether you suffer from this irrational fear of living alone or if the problem is entirely different. The treatment you get will depend on whether your condition has been diagnosed correctly or not. Even if you decide to seek help on your own, from friends and family for instance, and not from a doctor or therapist, you will still need to know what exactly you are suffering from.

It is important to realize that you can suffer from the fear of being alone even if you live with your family members. As a matter of fact, many women suffer from this problem and they do not get the help they require because people do not take their troubles seriously believing that it is not possible that they feel fear of being alone. Make sure that your anxiety issues are diagnosed well so that you can get the treatment necessary to help you lead a normal life.

Read about certain behavioral traits shared by people who fear being alone. Find out if you too suffer from the fear of living alone so that you can get the necessary help.

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Monophobia or the fear of being alone is a condition affects thousands of Americans every year. Many people are just going through the phobia without even knowing it. This is because the nature of mental illnesses — mental illnesses cause behavioral changes. These changes however are subtle in most cases and people might just dismiss them by thinking that the patient is just acting weird or has changed. They do not realize that the person actually needs medical attention and that after going through it, he or she will improve.

Monophobia can affect people in profound ways. Since people cannot be left alone or have a fear of being alone, they tend to be disadvantaged and this increases their vulnerability. Since they are so desperate to find companionship, they will get into relationships that could be harmful. Moreover, even when they know that they are being harmed, they will not get out of such a relationship since they fear being alone.

However they must realize that any relationship that is based on fear will never be fruitful and in the end, someone will always be at a disadvantage. People who have a fear of being alone must realize that they have a mental condition that can be cured through a systematic approach. Otherwise their lives may become a mess.

Not only does monophobia keep people in unhealthy relationships, they can be a burden for friends and family or caregivers. Since sufferers of this condition cannot be left alone, they must always be tended to by somebody, whether he or she is a spouse or a caregiver. This puts a great deal of stress on someone’s time and thus this can harm relationships. People who are going through this condition often ask their spouses to come home early from work so that they can be with them. Even though this solves the problem at the immediate level, the husband and wife both must realize that doing so can put the career of the spouse in jeopardy and a strain on their relationship.

Patients suffering from monophobia go through various symptoms that can make living alone difficult. For example they may have nausea, depression, anxiety, palpitation, irregular heartbeat, rapid breathing, and many other issues.

There are various ways to treat the condition. One of them is cognitive therapy in which a therapist tries to talk the patient out of the illness and another is systematic desensitization in which the patient is gradually exposed to the fear element so that he or she can overcome it.

Whatever treatment method is used, it is important that the condition can be treated since it useless to live with something that can be treated easily. Hence patients who fear living alone need not worry since they can cope with being alone with just a little intervention.

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1 – Reading of a medical book on the fear of vomiting will give you an understanding on how beneficial to the body actually vomiting really is. This can help you in overcoming the fear of vomiting by easing your anxiety when you realize vomiting does not harm the body in most cases. A good example medical book to read would be the long winded titled book: Vomiting: Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome, Emetophobia, Mr. Creosote, Postoperative Nausea and Vomiting, Hematemesis, Emetophilia – [paperback]

If the above medical book is too scientific and/or is too graphic in nature for you then I would recommend: Living With Emetophobia: Coping With Extreme Fear Of Vomiting by Nicolette Heaton-Harris and Linda Dean – [paperback]. This book is written by a lifelong emetophobe and gives help and advice on dealing with emetophobia from an actual sufferers point of view. Both books can be picked up online at Amazon or a Barnes & Noble store.

2 – A more proactive way to overcome your fear of vomiting is to use self-hypnosis. Now this will mean that you have to confront your fears by concentrating your thoughts on someone else being sick and yourself. The best option to try this would be in a darkened room and if it helps you to relax play some soothing favorite music that is put on low in the background. You need to close your eyes and relax as much as possible, then you should visualize someone vomiting in your mind. Try and keep calm through the visualization process. Once you have gained control of visualizing another person vomiting, it is time to train your hypnosis thoughts on yourself actually vomiting in your minds eye. This will probably take longer to master with it being yourself in the visualization technique. As long as you stay relaxed and keep practicing, it will become easier over time. Your anxiety will then begin to fade away with ongoing practice.

3 – Online forums and support groups are a good way to make contact with others who suffer from emetophobia. You can post details about what you are going through plus read others stories on how they deal with this illness. They can relate to what you are going through on a daily basis in battling your vomit phobia.

Keep in mind that your vomit phobia is a treatable condition and you do not have to keep this illness to yourself. Hopefully the above tips will give you some help in overcoming your fear of vomiting.

For an in depth and personal review of the Emetophobia Recovery System and if this program will work for you in curing your emetophobia, you can read the review here:

http://www.vomitphobia.org/emetophobia-treatment-emetophobia-recovery-system/

For more information on emetophobia and the various treatments available to you today please visit my website at: http://www.vomitphobia.org/

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One of the most interesting clients I worked with recently is a man in his thirties who has had an acute phobia of injections from a very early age. We explored the history of his phobia, tracing it back to the incident when he was 6 years.

As a small child, struggling against the injection being administered, he became so distressed at being informed that an operation might be required to remove a broken needle form his leg if he continued to struggle – not surprisingly, he was violently sick and “passed out” with fear! – ideal phobia inducing situation. Instantly the phobia was created – a powerful one off learning experience.

He has been afraid of injections for nearly as long as he can remember and has even had root canal dental work recently completed without anaesthetic such was his fear of needles. He had adapted to his phobia so much that the root canal work without a local anaesthetic was preferable to the injection. His fear of the needle was totally beyond the normal range. Now however he was faced with a problem. He and his wife were seeking IVF and an upcoming blood test that ( a pre requisite for his partner’s IVF treatment) had spurred him on to contact me for a hypnotherapy session

This was an extreme phobia of almost 30 years!

However, I firmly believed that if he learned the fear quickly then he could unlearn it just as quickly!

During the therapy session we used a powerful combination of hypnotherapy and NLP to tackle his phobic response and prepare for the upcoming blood test.

I began with an initial consultation of about an hour – essential in order to calibrate each client and give them an opportunity to really tell me what they want help with. He had also left it really late as the blood test was only a week away – I arranged to see him the morning of the test.

I began with progressive relaxation in order to give him a lifeline and enable him to access when ready the distressing context very precisely and safely – he described a particular shape and movement to his feelings of anxiety which seemed to grow and grow. Focusing on this I used that brilliant technique Richard Bandler uses of creative visualisation of the sensation – moving it around and spinning it out of his body – so he knew he would not be troubled by the anxiety. Next we worked on the original event using a mixture of timeline seeing the incident from old eyes and comforting his younger self and then a classic double dissociation fast phobia cure.

Following this he set off for the hospital.

He messaged me 2 hours later, having taken the test. I will let his message speak for itself! Suffice to say, it warmed my heart and reminded me why I choose to do what I do!:

” Hi Stella, just to let you know I’m back from my blood test and it all went very well. Practically no anxiety. Went in, and did it. For the first time ever, no sickness or sweaty palms so thank you very much. I’m sure I can hold this experience in my memory and replace the fear. Thanks again, this is going to have a massive impact on my life.”

Stella is a fully qualified and accredited hypnotherapist. Prior to this she had an extensive career in special education and developed a huge range of approaches working with challenging young people. Latterly she worked as an advisory teacher for children with Autism. She is qualified and practices in CBT, NLP and Hypnotherapy. To learn more about her practice and the services she offers visit http://simplychanged.me/

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A phobia is an irrational fear of a particular something. For example, some people have a fear of flying, some have a fear of heights, some people have a fear of closed spaces. However, these are just a few fears that people have. There are some very unique, in fact strange fears as well. For example, there is a fear known as the fear of fears! Another strange fear is a fear known as monophobia which is the fear of being alone. Even though this fear may sound strange, it is quite real and people may have it without knowing that they do.

People that have monophobia don’t like living alone due to specific symptoms associated with the disease. For example, when left alone, they may experience symptoms such as nausea, depression, anxiety, and so on. Other symptoms could include an irregular heartbeat or and palpitations.

There are many ways to treat the condition. But first must come a realization of the fact that as with other mental illnesses, a person can simply not be talked out of the condition. There must be a specific regime that the person may have to go through so that the fear can be addressed. Cognitive behavior therapy and systematic desensitization are two of the most common methodologies used for treating the condition. Another word for systematic desensitization is exposure therapy. However, cognitive behavioral therapy is mainly used for the treatment of this condition and in fact 75% of the patients are treated this way.

Systematic desensitization or exposure therapy is a process in which the patient is exposed to the element that produces fear in a gradual and controlled way. Since the patient is not being exposed to the element all of a sudden, he does not panic and slowly begins to realize that the element is in fact harmless. This gives a measure of control to the patient and slowly but gradually, he begins to take control over the fear. Finally when the patient is exposed to the fear in a real life situation, he does not suffer the same panic attacks.

People suffering from monophobia must realize that theirs is a treatable condition. It is important since the disease can have a great negative effect on not only the patients’ lives but also others around them making them suffer at the same time. This is because it tends to take a lot of time of friends and family who have to effectively babysit the patient all the time and this puts great strains on relationships.

Even though the condition merits attention, people do not need to fear since the fear of living alone can be treated and patients can realize that being alone is in fact possible!

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